1 in
5 teenage girl have being abused or violated.
Young
girls are more likely to be experience violence than men.
40%
of young girls are already subjected to teenage abuse.
Domestic violence is
any incident that threatens behavior between adult or teenagers who are or have
been intimate with a partner, family members, regardless of gender or
sexuality.
A family member could be a
mother, father, son, daughter, brother ,sister, and grandparents, in-laws, step-family
who are directly or indirectly related.
Shockingly 50% of girls
involved in this are the educated and well exposed female. Most people endure this
believing that they cant find a better person, or a wealthier person who can
take care of their needs.
Domestic abuse is
rarely a one of situation and should be seen as a pattern of abusive and
controlling behavior through which the abuser seeks power over their victim. It
is battering
A typical abuse involves a pattern of abusive and controlling behavior which tends to get worse over time.
Abuse can take place over and over again in public place or at home. and
continue even after couples have separated or existing relationship is
nullified.
Regardless of age, gender, race, sexuality, wealth and geography domestic violence can occur.
Facts
about the abusers
Abusers
are usually in control of themselves despite what the common believe is: domestic
abuse is not as a result of the abusers loss of control over his behavior. It is
a deliberate act or choice made by the abuser.
He is
not violent with other people. E.g colleague or friends or classmate.
He is
able to stop and compose himself at the sight of a third person or a police.
If it’s
a physical violence he chooses where to abuse or cause physical injuries.
He damages
the victims possession out of jealousy.
CAUSES
OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE:
Personality Traits Mental Illness.
SOCIAL
LEARNING: Violence is transmitted from generation to generation.
while
growing up and a child observes an aggressive behavior he or she will learn
from it and if there are no consequences the victims accept its with total
submission.
SOCIAL
STRESS…Violence is not always caused by stress but it could be
a way people respond to stress. Partners in poverty make experience this due to
conflict about finances.
TO
SHOW POWER AND CONTROL: Abusers always like to be in charge
and show supremacy.
Study has proved that this is as a result of low self
esteem and feeling of in adequacy. When he constantly calls or text you just to
know where you are or what you are doing.
HE
IS ACTUALLY NOT SHOWING YOU LOVE BUT HE IS FEELING VERY INADEQUATE AND THAT IS
A VERY CONTROLLING RELATIONSHIP.
FORMS OF DV INCLUDES:
EMOTIONAL
OR PSYCHOLOGICAL VIOLENCE:
- Verbal or non verbal
- Aims at chipping away the confidence and independence of a victim.
- Examples including yelling, name calling, bullying, blaming, shaming isolating, intimidating,
- Isolation example is the Japanese boy left alone for punishment.
PHYSICAL
ABUSE:
Physical
actions or physical aggression:
Slapping, kicking,
knocking on the head, throwing objects hitting, biting, kicking, pushing
shoving, and domineering, controlling, restraining strangling which is the most
common method of intimate partner hoimicide.
Example of pushing is the young couple who asking
his wife questions and he pushed her just by the stair case while she wasn’t answering.Just a slight push is a push.
Common
couple or common partner violence:.
This occurs in a single
argument where one of the partner lashes out on the other.
1. Intimate terrorism:
Occurs mostly in men with psychopathic or violence tendencies. He afflict pain or injuries on his partner as
a result of emotionally dependent on the relationship.
2. Economic/ Financial Abuse:
- Limiting a victims ability to access help
- Tactics may include wanting to have control over finances, withholding money or credit card
- Making someone unreasonably account for money spent or replacing petrol used in the car.
- Preventing someone from working
- Forcing to work against their will.
3. HONOUR BASED VIOLENCE:
This Violence is set at discretion
of those who do not thinks that a member of the family has brought shame to
them by not abiding by the rules of the family.
- · Infringement of a girl having a boyfriend.
- · Pregnancy outside marriage
- · Rejecting a force marriage- Marriage under duress
- · Teen Dating Abuse
4. STALKING:
Perpetrated by strangers or acquaintance.
This should be taking seriously because
it can lead to murder.
Wikipedia describes stalking as an unwanted obsessive
compulsive attention by an individual or a group towards another person. Monitoring
or following of a victim.
5. Dating Violence:
Females’ between 16 and 24
are likely to be abused.
Abusive relationship have
good and bad times. Part of what makes dating violence confusing because there
is a mix of love and abuse that makes
the victim not want to let go.
Unhealthy
relationship can start early and last for a life time.
Often people think that teasing and calling names are part of a relationship.
Effect
of Domestic Violence :
- · Suffer emotional trauma, there is always fear, depression, anti- social behavior low self esteem
- · Internal bleeding, injuries, irritable bowel syndrome- a disease condition tat makes the stomach irritable at almost every meal and presents with its own unique sign and symptoms
- · Long term illness e.g Mental illness
- · In Pregnancy, Miscarriage can happen, low birth weight due to poor nutrition, preterm labour, heamorrhage, rupture of the uterus.
Management
of DV:
Everyone deserves to be
loved, respected at all times and in all seasons.
ASK questions
like: does he have a history of a bad relationship.
Always blaming his or her problems on other people
Blame you for his misdemeanor.
Tries controlling by been bossy, not taking your opinion seriously
Pressures you to have unprotected intercourse.
Constantly calling or texting.
After answering all this….
- Seek medical help proper checkup and if you are pregnant that is essential to save you and the fetus
- Generally counselling of the affected person.
- Law enforcement including making an arrest or separating both parties away for few hours or days
- Counselling the offender
RECOMMENDATIONS:
Violence
should be taught everywhere. School, churches, mosques so victims won’t be
afraid to tell.
Teen
should be encourage to detest and not imitate what they see at home or watch on
the tv
Comprehensive
and extensive premarital counselling
Punishment
given to offenders should be published to serve as deterrence to others
ENDING
NOTE
Girls and women are crucial
to the growth and development of a nation and the world at large so let’s stop
violence against women considering that some women are mothers, teachers and bread winners.
Everyone deserves to be
loved and feel loved. Be happy and active
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